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For my Mom in heaven

Written by Kathryn Spira


Last Saturday, June 24, would have been my Mom's 91st birthday. She passed away after a long battle with Alzheimer's, but then, she was always a fighter.

From the age of seven, when she barely escaped Nazi Germany with her family, all the way through struggles as a single mom raising three girls and becoming a successful real estate agent, she was a force to be reckoned with. She was an active realtor to age 80!

I enclose a photo showing a shirt Herman got me which captures much of my feelings. In case you can't read it in the photo, this is what it says:

For my Mom in heaven-- They say there is a reason, They say time will heal. Neither time nor reason will change the way I feel. Gone are the days we used to share but in my heart you are always there. The gates of memories will never close. I miss you more than anybody knows, Love and miss you everyday! Till we meet again, Always and forever, love you, Mom.

Well, guys it still feels totally weird not to have my mom alive anymore. The shirt really says how I feel. Ironically Suzanne, the lay leader, at my synagogue lost her mother in April. What Suzanne does for me is she makes a home visit when she has the time and she brings her prayer book with her, and together we recite the mourners Kaddish so that we can send our moms' spirits to heaven. I must say that after reciting this prayer I feel good and very clean. I know that must sound weird but that's the way it is.

Moms body was flown from Chicago to Cleveland where she was buried next to Joe Spira who was my stepdad. So I'm hoping that Mom and Dad (Joe raised me more than my biological father did) are reunited again.

My guess at what happens after life is that everybody is at peace and they are reunited with those they love. I can't end this column without reiterating that there are no wheelchairs in heaven! And they will NOT be missed!


About Kathryn Spira

Kathryn Spira, a native of Cleveland, OH who pursued an acting career in NYC and Los Angeles, now pursues freelance writing from Caroga Lake in Fulton County, New York. Previous columns may be accessed at her web site

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